I’m joined by Dr. Sarah Schewitz, Licensed Clinical Psychologist and founder of Couples Learn, a online therapy company that focuses specifically on couples therapy and attachment wounding. We talk about working through toxic behaviors in a relationship, understanding your attachment style, and her recommendations for couples who are considering starting therapy. Dr. Sarah highlights ways to address your blindspots and get curious about your own behavioral patterns both inside and outside of therapy. We also dig into signs that relationships will fail or succeed and the biggest mistakes that she sees couples make when they go to therapy.
IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT:
- How to create healthy dynamics within your relationship
- Why it’s so important to understand not only your own attachment style, but also the attachment style of the person that you love
- Recognizing codependent cycles in relationships
- The “decide, don’t slide” philosophy
- The core differences between couples and individual therapy
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BRIEF, TIMESTAMPED EPISODE TIMELINE/HIGHLIGHTS
( 0:44 ) Welcome back to another episode of Dear Liv! Today, Jeanette is joined by Dr. Sarah Schewitz.
( 2:24) Dr. Sarah joins the conversation.
( 3:03 ) Jeanette asks Dr. Sarah, “Can you tell me a little bit about Couples Learn for those who don’t know?”
( 5:16 ) Jeanette asks Dr. Sarah, “What are some of the first signs that you might be in a toxic relationship, or that you might even be the person that’s bringing some of those bad behaviors to the table?”
( 8:02 ) Jeanette asks Dr. Sarah, “Can you talk a little bit about the codependent side?”
( 12:00 ) Jeanette asks Dr. Sarah, “How do you clean up your stuff without blowing up your relationship?”
( 16:11 ) Jeanette asks Dr. Sarah, “What is it that we’re viewing our partners through when we’re picking them?”
( 17:28 ) Jeanette asks Dr. Sarah, “Can you talk about attachment wounding?”
( 28:25 ) Jeanette asks Dr. Sarah, “When working with couples, is there ever anything that you notice that you’re like, I like this about them and I feel like they’re gonna be alright?”
( 29:52 ) Jeanette asks Dr. Sarah, “Is it true that when you guys see someone you know pretty quickly whether or not they’re gonna make it?”
( 31:50 ) Jeanette asks Dr. Sarah, “What are your thoughts on deciding, not sliding?”
( 34:23 ) Jeanette asks Dr. Sarah, “What would you say to a couple who are trying to decide how to pick a therapist? What would you recommend to them?”
( 35:28 ) Jeanette asks Dr. Sarah, “What’s the difference between couples and individual therapy?”
( 38:15 ) Jeanette asks Dr. Sarah, “What is the biggest mistake that you see couples make when they go to therapy?”
( 39:34 ) Jeanette asks Dr. Sarah, “Where can people go to learn more about working with you, about the services you offer, or just to follow you?”